Things you might be wondering...
There are no silly questions when it comes to therapy. These are some of the things people often wonder about before we meet—or sometimes don't realise they can ask at all.
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Before we begin
How do I know if therapy is right for me?
You don't have to be in crisis to come to therapy. Some people come because life feels overwhelming, while others are simply curious about understanding themselves more deeply. If you're unsure, you're very welcome to arrange a Connection Call and we can think it through together.
What happens in the first session?
The first session is simply the beginning of getting to know one another. We'll talk about what's brought you here, what you're hoping for, and any questions you have. There is no pressure to tell me everything at once—we'll go at a pace that feels comfortable for you.
What if I'm nervous or don't know what to say?
That's completely okay. Many people feel this way. You don't need to arrive with a plan or the "right" words. We'll begin wherever you are, and we'll work things out together.
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During therapy
Do I have to talk about traumatic or painful experiences?
No.
There is never any expectation that you'll talk about something before you're ready. Therapy isn't about forcing painful memories into the room. We'll work at a pace that feels safe, and there are many ways of understanding what's happening for you without immediately revisiting difficult experiences.
Why do I sometimes leave feeling worse after a session?
Therapy can stir emotions that have been quietly sitting beneath the surface. Feeling emotional, unsettled or thoughtful afterwards doesn't automatically mean something has gone wrong. Often your mind is continuing to process our conversation. If anything concerns you, please bring it back—we can make sense of it together.
Is it normal to feel exhausted afterwards?
Yes, it can be. Therapy asks a lot of your mind and body. Some people leave feeling lighter, while others notice they need rest, quiet or time to process. Everyone's experience is different.
I've noticed memories, dreams or emotions coming up between sessions. Is that normal?
It can be. Therapy sometimes opens the door to things that haven't had much space before. If you notice memories, dreams, strong emotions or new patterns emerging, you're always welcome to bring them into the next session. We can explore them together if they feel important to you.
What if I don't think therapy is working?
Please tell me.
One of the most helpful things you can do is let me know if something doesn't feel right. Therapy is something we create together, and your feedback helps us adjust our approach.
Can I ask questions about the therapy itself?
Absolutely.
You're welcome to ask why I've asked something, why we're working in a particular way, or simply tell me you're confused. I see those conversations as part of therapy, not a distraction from it.
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Our relationship
Can I swear?
Absolutely.
I encourage people to be themselves in the therapy room, and if swearing is part of how you naturally express yourself, that's completely okay with me. The only boundary is that it isn't directed at me in an abusive or threatening way. Otherwise, you're welcome to speak in whatever way feels most like you.
What if we meet in public?
I'll usually leave it up to you.
Some people prefer privacy and don't want others to know they're attending counselling, so I won't normally say hello first. If you'd like to wave or stop for a quick chat, I'll always be happy to respond warmly.
Can I add you on social media?
To protect your privacy and maintain clear professional boundaries, I don't connect with current or former clients through personal social media accounts.
Can I contact you between sessions?
You're always welcome to message me about practical things like appointments or if you're running late. I don't offer counselling by text or email between sessions, as I believe therapy works best within the dedicated space we've agreed together.
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In the therapy room
Can I cry?
Of course.
You never need to apologise for tears. Equally, if you don't cry, that's okay too. There isn't a "right" way to be in therapy.
Can I bring notes, drawings or something I've written?
Absolutely.
Some people find it much easier to think on paper than out loud. If bringing something helps you express yourself, you're very welcome to do so.
Is silence okay?
Yes.
Sometimes silence is simply part of thinking, noticing or feeling. There is no expectation that every moment has to be filled with words.
Can I tell you if something isn't working?
Please do.
Whether it's something I've said, a question I've asked or simply a feeling that something doesn't fit, I'd much rather know. Your experience matters, and those conversations often become some of the most valuable parts of therapy.
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Ending therapy
How will I know when I'm ready to finish?
We'll keep talking about it together.
Some people come for a few sessions, others for much longer. We'll regularly review how things are going, and when the time feels right, we'll think together about bringing our work to a close in a way that feels thoughtful rather than abrupt.